Children & Bereavement

Here is selection of resources aimed at helping children through bereavement.

Helpful websites

Collected resources - all in one place

Great pinterest noticeboard of resources.

Winston's Wish
Winston's Wish is the leading childhood bereavement charity and the largest provider of services to bereaved children, young people and their families in the UK. They offer practical support and guidance to families, professionals and anyone concerned about a grieving child. 

Grief in the family
Leeds Animation Workshop was set up in 1976 to produce and distribute animated films on social issues.

Helpful books

Muddles, Puddles and Sunshine

Diana Crossley.

Practical and sensitive support for bereaved children accompanied by the friendly characters of Bee and Bear. No obvious Christian content, but a valuable resource.

Helping children cope with the loss of a loved one 

William Kroen.

Written by a counsellor and therapist to help adults working with children.

What on earth do you do when someone dies?

Trevor Romain.

Could be given to a child to read, or used by an adult as a tool for raising the subject.

Children and Bereavement 

Wendy Duffy

Essential reading for parents, teachers, clergy and others who may be involved in helping a child or teenager comes to terms with a death. The lives of thousands of children are affected by bereavement every year. This sensitive guide examines the needs of bereaved children of different ages, their reactions to death, and the stages of their grief. Written in non-jargon language, it provides clear, accessible information and stories of real situations. This second edition includes completely new sections on dealing with tragic events such as September 11th and Soham. Published September 2003

A correspondent writes: " The best resources I've found are Dr. Wolfelt's books; Understanding Grief ISBN 1-55959-038-6 and especially Grief Gardening- how to help children who are grieving. Accelerated Development Inc Publishers 3808 West Kilgore Avenue Muncie, Indiana 47304-4896 USA 

Rosie - Coming to terms with the death of a sibling 

Stephanie Jeffs 

This sympathetic story of love and faith under difficult circumstances takes us into the life of Jenny and her sister, Rosie, who is unwell. Jenny wants to know why Rosie doesn’t get better. For all those suffering in the same way, this book offers the promise that God hates pain and suffering, too, and has prepared a place for us in heaven, where there is no illness or hurt.

Josh - Coming to terms with the death of a friend 

Stephanie Jeffs 

This sensitive story, written from a child’s perspective, moves readers through the pain and emptiness of grief and loss to the sadness that accompanies the acceptance of death and burial, explaining what happens to the body of a dead person, and reassuring children of the safe place awaiting everyone who puts their faith in God. Josh

Saying Goodbye to Greg - Understanding bereavement at Foundation, KS1 and KS2 

Christine Chapman 

If death breaks into a school unexpectedly, teachers are expected to cope, often stretching their capabilities far beyond their usual realm of expertise. Coping with their own emotional responses to the situation as well as having to respond to the children’s urgent needs must be managed in addition to having to maintain the momentum of daily teaching. Using a ‘real-life’ situation set in story form in a primary school, Saying Goodbye to Greg is a bereavement training resource that will, through its intelligent and delicate handling of the subject, equip teachers to approach bereavement with professionalism and sensitivity. Saying Goodbye to Greg

Grandma's Party 

Meg Harper  

Practical ways to help children be part of the grieving process when a loved one dies. Grandma's Party

Where did Grandad go? 

Aims to help very young children to come to terms with the idea of death and missing somebody very much, remembering all the good things about them. Tackling a difficult question with sensitivity and compassion, this book aims to guide young children to an understanding of the special place that God has for those who love him when they die. Ideal for one-to-one reading.

Grief and Loss: Responding to young people 

Knowing what to say or do when someone is grieving or experiencing loss is always difficult. For anyone working with young people, especially those already vulnerable or socially excluded, the need to feel equipped is a priority. First Response to Grief and Loss is a new resource providing initial answers for people "on the frontline".

It is a 50-minute DVD and five leaflets for use with young people, plus a manual and reference leaflet for use by practitioners. I suspect this is more intended for older young people, but there may well be useful principles to apply to all.

Part One of First Response to Grief and Loss looks at the different forms of loss. The resource goes on to look at the ways in which grief can manifest itself; why we grieve; the grieving "journey" and the possible consequences of unresolved grief. Part Two explores the initial steps - the "first response" - that all practitioners can take, namely active listening, sensitive pacing and working safely and professionally with a young person.